My husband has always been very bossy. In the past, however, he could get very aggressive when he tried to lay down the law about something. Sometimes he would get really angry and I could get quite frightened of him. Me being the way I am though, being frightened didn't make me want to do what he wanted, it just drove me into a state of sullen defiance. If I did do what he wanted it didn't make me feel good, I just felt I was doing it because I wanted to avoid being shouted at, which made me feel resentment towards him and made me despise myself.